I’ve had coffee with a lot of people over the past few weeks. And it has absolutely filled my heart to the brim with love and thankfulness. Coffee and conversation have to be the combined sixth love language that just got cut out of the book, I’m convinced. A lot of those conversations were spent reminiscing and laughing, but several touched on deep things, which got me thinking.
I’m a jealous person. I said it.
Comparing myself and my life to others is one of my greatest sins. And a huge catalyst for more sinning. It goes in waves. I do well seeking my worth in the Lord for a few weeks, and then I start slipping. I look at this girl and her fiance, this married couple’s house, this woman’s relationship with the Lord, an ex-boyfriend and his wife’s lives, so-and-so’s job, etc. It’s shameful, and I’ll be the first to admit that.
Because I’m prone to forgetting I’m a beloved daughter whose worth is justified and fulfilled in Christ alone, I have learned to take certain precautions.
There are people I do not follow on social media because I know I’m prone to envy them and the small sliver of their lives I see online. I often get the urge to click “follow” or “friend” because I’m curious about where they are in life, but I don’t let myself. I know it will only lead to sin – envy, jealousy, self-righteousness, etc. It’s not a pretty picture.
But what I hate most about this tendency to constantly compare myself to others is that I am denying so many of God’s promises when I believe these lies.
1. I’m denying that God made me in his image, with passions and desires for things after his own heart. He didn’t make us all replicas of each other… we are different parts of the body, with different skills that we bring to the table. He has gifted us to use our gifts together, not to ignore our gifts to try to master someone else’s better than they can.
2. I’m denying that I am justified by Christ alone.
3. I’m denying that Christ is enough for me. I’m believing that what I do needs to be enough.
But here’s the truth: I don’t have to continue believing those lies. Because I am free from them. Christ has set us free from the law of sin and death. We are no longer enslaved by sin – we are freed and victorious in Christ over it! So, I guess I’m telling you two things today. One, Jesus is more than enough for you. The ways you think you need to be “better” won’t fulfill you the way only he can. And two, guard your hearts. If your temptation is to compare yourself to specific people, set up boundaries to help prevent it. Don’t follow them on social media. Write Scripture on notecards that will remind you to choose life in Christ over comparison and place them in your car, books, houses, etc. And, finally, seek Christ. Ask the Lord for strength to remember his promises! Ask him to open your eyes to how great, how deep, how far and how wide he love for you is already, right now.
He is good, my friends. And there is nothing else in this world, no life or relationship status, no makeup products, no brand name clothing, no perfect house, no perfect relationship that will fulfill what you’re missing in Him.
I’m joining up with an awesome organization today called Overcome the Lie, it’s a movement encouraging women to overcome the lies we believe because Jesus overcame the grave. To check them out and read more great posts, go here. You won’t regret it.